Those 4 Little Words…

“I Want a Divorce”

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My whole world just fell apart with those 4 little words and they came out of my mouth! 
I don’t think I’d ever been more scared and hurt in my life. I physically felt it in my body.
What does this mean?
How could I let this happen?
Why was I not good enough? 

My husband and I had been together for years. We met at work when I was just 18 and now pushing 36, our time together was a decent chunk of my life. We have 2 gorgeous girls Katelynn (14) and Lauren (5) and own/operate 4 franchised fast food stores together. So how could I let those 4 words come out of my mouth! 

Despite seeming to have it all together, I wasn’t happy. And clearly he wasn’t either. I’d love to say I was the perfect wife and the perfect mother but I definitely was not. I used to drag my eldest Katelynn to work with me for hours on end shoving a DS in her face hoping she’d stay quiet enough for me to get through the day. Our lives revolved around the businesses. We loved what we did and we’re very passionate about it, but in hindsight certainly not about each other. Together we built up run down, poorly managed stores and turned them into profitable award winning stores, doubling sales at a minimum for all 7 stores we had owned over the last decade. 

Enter the other woman.
The other woman whom also was our employee. 
I’d like to say I blame her, the homewrecker, the slut, after all it was her M.O. I had later discovered. But in all honesty I left the door open for her in our relationship. Him too, he is an incredible man and wonderful father we just never worked on each other. A hard lesson learned.
Never again. 

“I’m pregnant”

Well… 15 years ago that is. I was 20 and studying a Bachelor of Business majoring in Accounting at QUT when I got the news. I’d always intended on going back, but 15 years later never did. Never had a reason to. Although incomplete, what I’d learnt at uni helped me immensely in climbing the ladder within the franchise. I don’t come from a wealthy family. My mum raised my 3 sisters and I as a single mum on Centrelink. So when my franchisor offered to sponsor me into owning my first store in Melbourne, whilst scared out of my mind, I jumped at the opportunity.

I loved the franchise (sounds so mysterious not naming names lol) but after 20 years am walking away to start again. I’d actually been so lost this last year, I’ve been able to spend so much more quality time with my girls and I’ll never compromise on that ever again, however, I hadn’t been able to shake that lost feeling.

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Time to start over

I’m so excited for what I now plan for my future. How did it not occur to me earlier! As recent as last Tuesday I decided I would start my own Accounting business… “Crap! Has uni already started?!” I rang the university office only to discover QTAC applications were due midnight that day. I’m going to go with, it was meant to be.
Application in.  Accepted on Thursday.  😳

I’d actually initially applied for this unit to be credited due to my past experiences at QUT and work.  However, after reading Martin’s Week 1 study guide on how we truely learn, it made me think this unit could be of real value. My primary role in my business (apart from admin) was to train our team members and alot of what Martin touches on makes sense to me based on how I’ve seen people learn in the past.  

I’m looking forward to learning what this unit has to offer and connecting with other students like yourself in the process.

Xx
Jen

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  1. Hey Jennifer,

    Your blog “between the spreadsheets” rounds out my top 3 favourite blogs. Once again the presentation of the home page is unique and different to all the others I have seen but maintains that characteristic of having everything right there where you need it. Your headings to your blog posts can be a little misleading at times and took me a second or two to realise the relevance of the heading but on the flip side your headings like “50 Shades of Grey” and “Those 4 Little Words” roped me in to take a closer look into the post itself. I did find your openness to your personal life a little confronting at first but once I realised you just wanted to share your story, I couldn’t stop reading. Jennifer, you go into so much depth and although I will never meet you face-to-face, I feel as though I know you on another level and that is something unique.
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    Cheers,
    Lachie

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    1. Thank you so much for your thoughts Lachie, I really appreciate it 😊 and thank you for picking me as one of your 3 😱🙊😍
      I did wonder to myself after the fact perhaps I got to personal but I know I can’t do it any other way, it’s just part of me.
      I look forward to checking out your blog 😉🙂

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  2. Wow Jennifer,
    You are an inspiration to us all to get back up again, thank you for sharing. I thought at first you were simply telling a story, life’s lessons are what mould us into the people we are. I look forward to reading some more.
    Take care.
    Chez

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  3. Hi Jennifer, love your blog, your honesty and your writing creativity, i too am choosing your blog as one of my top three, love the lay out, love the headings and love the writing. Your great at involving the reader into your story and merging the accounting concepts with real life. I look forward to following your blog throughout this journey.

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  4. Hi Jen, when I read this post it really affected me. Owning your own business involves personal sacrifices that cannot be understood by anyone who hasn’t done it. It takes you to the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. To say you left the door open for the other woman and your husband saddened me. I see a beautiful wife, mother, and business owner doing her best for her family under extraordinary pressure, being betrayed by the very man who should have been standing right beside her and only her. Jen, congratulations on being such a courageous and inspirational young woman. I hope you achieve the success and happiness you deserve. John

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  6. Hi Jen,
    You have honestly moved me in such a way. I may be young but have already had my very own ups and downs. Reading this has made me realise that no matter what if I keep moving forward I will be okay. This is the reason that on my blog I have the wonderful words of Dory/Ellen from Finding Nemo. Just keep swimming. I can’t wait to hear more of your stories as they are very interesting to read and I would love to continue reading.

    Warmest Regards,
    Chloe

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  7. You are extremely courageous and brave and this shines through your writing. It is experiences and struggles like this that all contribute to getting us where we are meant to be in life. Keep shining, don’t let anyone or anything kill that light.

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  8. Hi! I have included you, like many others have already, in my top 3 blogs. Your “about me” section grabbed me first, and all that you have been through already. You seem very ambitious and I applaud you for that. Your blogs are interesting and easy to read. Well done!

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